When you’re in the midst of a breakup, everything seems horrible. The world carries on likes it’s upside down; time moves at a glacial pace. If you’ve recently broken up, you’re likely overcome with sadness, loneliness, and fear of the unknown. Unhappiness envelops you like storm clouds on a rainy day. So what if I were to propose that a breakup could be one of the best things to ever happen in your life? Hear me out…
In the days to weeks after a breakup, you’re inevitably wondering “why me”. You’re in turmoil. You’re strategizing on how to win your ex back. What’s the fastest way to go back to before? Now imagine if you flipped the script and instead viewed this period as completely necessary? What if you introspectively identified this time as critical for your growth as a person?
I’d like to propose that either during your relationship, at the end of the relationship, and/or during the breakup process, you neglected yourself – emotionally, physically, socially, etc. You became accustomed to the status quo so much that you forgot you were alive. You were asleep. So with this awakening, you’re now given the opportunity to rediscover yourself. You’re given the chance to regain control of your life. Instead of feeling hopeless, realize that you now have the power to make lifelong changes…changes that are long overdue.
So what does this all boil down to? Said simply, there’s no better time than the breakup period to embark on the journey of self-help. View the breakup as your call to action. Put meaning into the heartbreak by struggling to create your best self. Struggle today for a happier tomorrow! And remember, become the better version of YOU not for your ex…but for yourself.
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